Congratulations! I'm going to assume if you have arrived at this article, you have just (or about to) received one of the best things to happen in life - a new baby!
You and your partner are embarking on a journey that will change you forever. A path that has been walked by many parents before you - but one that will be unique to you.
I get it - it can feel overwhelming. It can be daunting even trying to get your head around what is going to happen in the next week.
This article is here to provide parenting advice for new parents. It is about finding the right frame of mind. Developing the best approach for you that will get you through the good times and the bad times.
If I had this BEFORE embarking on my own journey, the hard times would have been a lot easier to navigate. It is for this reason I want to share these nuggets of wisdom - from one parent to another, in the hope that it makes it easier for others that are in the shoes I once wore.
Let's get into it!
Find people in the same situation. According to the cdc - in 2019 there were over 10,000 babies born every day in the United States. A good proportion of those babies parents will be experiencing parenthood for the first time - very much like you. Reach out form a support group.
It doesn't even have to be a physical support group. With advances in technology these days, you can reach out to other new parents online and receive virtual support.
One of the hardest things to do (and biggest mistakes new parents make) is trying to take on this new-found responsibility on their own.
When you enter the world of parenting, there is one phrase that you will become very familiar with. And that is "It's only a phase...".
I have to tell you, this one piece of parenting advice for new parents has saved me many times over.
Embracing this one quote can and will save your mental sanity countless times throughout your journey as a new parent.
By adjusting your expectations and knowing that the hard times are only temporary helps move your mindset from one of "oh my gosh - this is so hard. I can't do this!" to a more manageable mindset of "I just need to get through this and the hard times will pass".
I know this parenting advice seems trivial - I mean how exactly can just one phrase change you?
However, I and the team at Best Baby Care Tips, highly recommend trying this one thing for a week.
Each time you feel too tired to deal with a crying baby, each time you just want to crawl back under the sheets of your bed, each time you wish that things would just stop...pause for a second, take a deep cleansing breath, and say to yourself "it's only a phase - the hard times will pass".
You'll be amazed at how your mindset changes from one of "I can't..." to one that is appreciative of your new found love, and that these hard times are simply a part of your baby's development and growth.
This piece of advice is one that you will eventually realize along the parenting road, however I wish I had been told this right at the beginning.
Realizing that each baby is different took a while for me to comprehend. In the beginning it was hard not to compare to other mothers and their babies.
I would often find myself asking:
I admit, when you are tired from the lack of sleep, and the unrelenting chores list that just doesn't seem to ever get done, it is hard to muster the willpower to prevent these types of thoughts from penetrating your mind.
It is in these moments that I recommend reminding yourself that every baby is different. It is what makes this wonderful world exciting and unpredictable. Each baby will develop differently. Remember, all these "milestones" are just a general guide. It is not a hard and fast recipe of how to raise a child. There is no one correct way to raise a child.
The best thing is for you to find your own way. A way that feels comfortable and right to you. This doesn't mean you cannot ask for help. Simply listen to the advice and make your own decision, is it what is best for you and your baby.
I know I have a controlling personality. That is to say, I don't try to control others. I try to control the surrounding environment. I know now that this personality trait was one of my weaknesses as a parent. I found that if I tried to control every outcome, I often felt disappointed and that I was failing.
Learning from my experience, I taught myself to let go of the outcomes. Accept that I could plan as much as I wanted, prepare everything, yet sometimes it just wasn't going to happen the way I wanted it to.
The final piece of advice I want to share is to accept things as they come. Your baby may take their nap, or they may not. You can try to maintain a regimented feeding routine, but sometimes your baby won't be hungry. You can systemize your sleep time routine, but sometimes your baby just won't go to sleep.
It happens and the best way to approach these challenging moments, is to take it as it comes.
Turn your frustrations around, and rather than get angry or anxious about things not going to plan, take the opportunity to engage with your baby. Sing to them. Play with them. Do something meaningful and you will find the parenting journey that much more satisfying.
If you want to try to avoid some common mistakes first time parents make, check out our article Tips for First Time Parents - Mistakes to Avoid.
We thought it would be useful to list down a few questions that you (as new parents) may want to consider to prepare yourself for the arrival of your baby.
Bringing a baby into the world was the easy part.
Now you have the new-found responsibility of caring and nurturing your baby. For some, it can be an overwhelming experience.
In this article, I have listed down the parenting advice that I wish I had when I first began my journey.
In sharing this advice, my hope is that you can find your own way along the path and take time to enjoy those moments with your new bundle of joy.
Please share your parenting advice for new parents in the comments section below, so we can all help each other along this challengin, yet rewarding experience.